I remember when I first put my blog up oh so long ago, and you commented. I thought that was really cool. Not that it was mind-blowingly thought provoking, or it gave me strength to carry on in life, but because it represented someone who cared enough to sympathize for a moment, and offer a word of encouragement.

I don’t know you personally, and I certainly can’t relate to what you’re going through, but I’m really, very sorry about what’s going on with you right now.

Having spent almost 4 years living in Viet Nam and having been married to a Vietnamese lady for 27 years now, I feel I can safely say that I understand almost nothing about women, and Vietnamese women in particular. You guys are marvelous mysteries. So I will not try to diagnose your condition. However I am intimately familiar within my family with the tragic results of untreated depression. Two male members of my immediate family could not bring themselves to admit that they had a problem and seek professional help. The events were ten years apart but they both eventually reached the point of no return and took the ultimate step.

You are different though, Co Kim. Throughout your website, your poetry, your stories and correspondence you demonstrate amazing openness and candor that should be a great asset in dealing with your condition. Perhaps if my father and brother had your level of insight and maturity they would still be here. You have made the important first step of finding help and I wish you all the best in your struggle to regain control.

Thank you for building an interesting and creative site and for sharing part of your life with us.

I consider you strong to be able to admit and to actively try to fix your problems. I hope that all goes well and I hope for the best for you, and that you will be able to find assistance to help you feel better. Take care

"Just from my personal experience, guys are ALOT less stress prone, and alot more easy going. Crazy situations like this are more often spawned by females. Males take much more dominating roles and are more likely to take out their stress in physical releases (violence, sports whatnot). Girls tend to hold it all in and go nutzoid. :)"

i believe you’ve gotten yourself confused about girls holding it all in. like everyone else has put it to you on this board, the reason why 80% of girls are, like how you said, have something going wrong is because males tend to internalize their problems where as females are more likely to voice their issues.

i’ll give you that more females attempt suicide and have more tendencies to be depressed. but if you check every single statistic book out there, it is clearly written in plain english for dumb ass simpletons like you to understand that more males are successful in putting their lives to an end. and it is more males who have a tendency to have greater and more serious problems and disorders than females. more males that commit violent crimes, hit their wives, rape and abuse 80% of women who you said "go nutzoid" and and pull dumbass stunts like the incidents that have occurred throughout the entire history of the human race.

and these are the top dawgs you’re talking about.

as for what you said about "crazy situations are spawned by females," think again. sure we do stupid things and bust drama here and there, i’ll give you that. but you don’t hear about women pull shit like beat up our exgirlfriends and force them to lead us to our other guys’ house and attempt to kick the shit out of him in front of her, or rape innocent women, or kill someone with our own bare hands very often. it isn’t very many girls you see taking magnifying glasses and frying ants on the street in a hot summer day, or see a girl with a computer cleaning can spraying black widow spiders and then cracking it with a large object to kill it.

and the reason why you see that more males are easy going is because they bottle up their problems and don’t talk about it. and everyone knows what keeping in problems does. and as joyce had said, males manifest their into alcoholism and drug dependency, as well as the violence and abuse that i had mentioned before.

but just because it isn’t being spoken about doesn’t mean that problems don’t exsist in males. you obviously don’t have very many friends, males or females, or else you would’ve already known this yourself.

It’s easy to judge when you’re off in la-la land. Personally, I find that people who can self-reflect a lot more interesting than those who just go through life judging without imagining themselves in others’ shoes. It’s one thing to be a person that likes the simple things in life. It’s quite another to be a simpleminded fool.

to kim, i’m really sorry about what you’re going through, i know that things like this are incredibly hard to deal with. i have one cousin with bipolar and several more (as well as myself) who are clinically depressed and are or have been on medication. there are times when depression is something that we can fight on our own, but it’s important to recognize that sometimes we just can’t do it all by ourselves. i think it shows a lot of wisdom that you can tell the difference.

i hope you do start feeling better soon.

so let’s have a picnic!