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Friday March 10, 2006 at 10:19 am

March 10, 2006 at 6:19 pm · Filed under Rigamarole

So through this past week I’ve encountered shock, then sadness, then anger, then depression. Through it all, though, I’ve had my friends.

Strangly enough, on the first day of the breakup, for some irrational reason I believed that because Lan and I had all mutual friends that I had not only lost my boyfriend but all of my friends in the same day.

Don’t ask me why, I wasn’t really thinking clearly at the time. Let me tell you, though, the loneliness was pretty devastating.

Luckily for me, I found out pretty quickly that that wasn’t the case at all and that I have an awesome network of friends. Not the kind that are only with you through the fun times, but the ones who hold your hand through the shitty times as well.

What keeps you going?

mafiagirl93 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:22 am

i dont kno you but this may cheer you up read my next comment..im being forced  to send this sry its you or if your happy about this the congrats.

ch50 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:23 am

please cheer up. if you don’t your not going to get anybetter.

mafiagirl93 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:24 am

p.s. i didnt write this weird comment  i was forced to copy and send.p.ss im sorry what your going through show your ex that you can be happy without him and start and new life

ch50 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:26 am

thats good. :)

dehzep said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:27 am

good friends & family

kyleeuin said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:28 am

Ok, I would answer that one, but it would seem like a shameless plug. So I will say I am glad you are feeling somewhat better

MT_Headed said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:30 am

I’d have to agree with you that its your friends that help keep you going. Especially when it comes to breakups (which I think still sucks), the more the merrier. Keep em close.

lichunsah said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:30 am

Work out, shop, buy some new makeup, shoes, get a new fab haircut.
Rebounding works too.

SeDuCiNgYoOhBoO said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:30 am

what keeps you going is your friends, but what am i going to tell you what to do. i mean you just have to try to keep yourself busy going out, shopping, or something to keep your mind off the situation. well hopefully everything will work out for the better later on; it usually does. well hope you feel better.

crystalt728 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:33 am

Sheer force of will. I’m barely hanging on.

NelyCowleySanchez said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:34 am

It sounds like you’re going to be okay.  Use your friends as your crutch and you’ll see in the end it will work itself out. 

jimmiwin said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:35 am

Right on. Sounds like you ran the gammut of the 5 stages of grief.  We’ve all been there.  When I’ve felt that much hurt I try to remind myself that that’s way better than to feel numb.  It’s an affirmation that you are alive.  But I guess I’m a sadomasochist in that aspect.

vanessaO_o said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:49 am

friends. definitely friends…

gonchoi said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:50 am

The thought of a better day.. =)

Lemon451 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:52 am

We’re your friends because you’re such a good cook. =PI think feelings will cycle up and down but I think if you just let your friends help you out, things get better slowly but surely. You get good days and bad days. Your friends love you though! I promise, and we’ll be thre for you just holler. =P

gechalx said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:53 am

can i be your online friend!!! yeaaaaaaaaaaaaa… i totally get what you’re saying tho.. i’ve had some rough times where my homies would help me and sometime mentally give me slap to the face to get back to reality.. “friends…how many of us have them, ones that we can depend on” lol

popplepea said,

March 10, 2006 @ 10:56 am

i really do relate in terms of feeling like you lose all your friends because of the mutual friendship circle thing. I guess for me, everything happened all at once, coincidentally… not because of the break up at all… but still, gotta have something to blame huh?What makes me feel better? XANGA. Just kidding.

stubbytalk said,

March 10, 2006 @ 11:14 am

we’re not the closest friends, but we’re friends to say the least. and because of that i believe giving support through the shitty times is just part of the pal package. breakups are tough on both ends, but you just have to believe that there is nothing else you can do about it. whats done is done. its out of your hands. so all there is left to do is pick yourself up. move on. and take over the world. and what goes around comes around because karma is a bitch like that.

meemee925 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 11:25 am

i’m currently going through a breakup, too, though not a romantic one, it’s with a friend. i thought i was a horrible person and that my friends would see me differently, but i’ve been talking it over with them all and they’ve all been soooooooo supportive. i hope to never take my friends for granted. if anything, i think social support is the one major thing that keeps me going.

muek said,

March 10, 2006 @ 11:28 am

Finding people who appreciates U deffinitely works

airina05 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 11:32 am

keeping busy and seeing people i haven’t seen in a long time. =)
if it took you only a week to discover your friends were there for you, then good for you…it took me 2

shirtpuppet said,

March 10, 2006 @ 11:43 am

Proving to myself that i’m not a failure

CaKaLusa said,

March 10, 2006 @ 11:53 am

a beating heart.

mrchinese said,

March 10, 2006 @ 11:56 am

let’s get lee’s sandwiches

amberisamusicsnob said,

March 10, 2006 @ 12:02 pm

*sniff* relationships are like this huge hole. Its all nice and safe and away from the world. Then things fall apart, and you’re forced to leave the hole. At first its scary, but you learn to adjust and you discover things outside of that hole that makes you so much happier then when you were in there. Being outside of a relationship is the best thing in the world for me. Its freedom, its relaxation, its just all about me. Everyone falls in life. You can’t control how fast or hard you’ll hit the ground, but you do have control as how fast you get up. YOUUUUUUUUU CANNNNNNN DOOOOOOOO ITTTTT! (yay woman power lol)amber

aydongbeeleef said,

March 10, 2006 @ 12:21 pm

friends

bjtdevera said,

March 10, 2006 @ 12:26 pm

what keeps me going? Friends like you who race to be the first to ask me how many wives I want.

Kwazy_Fweak said,

March 10, 2006 @ 12:38 pm

what keeps me going is the love of snowboarding..which will take me through days where i don’t sleep and i look for places to build the sweetest kicker..

Jarris said,

March 10, 2006 @ 12:59 pm

the belief in the good of another person….that there’s someone who shares my feelings as well….but its a dream for me still

Ssweet_dreemzZ said,

March 10, 2006 @ 1:43 pm

Friends fo sho. =P Hang in there.

cutsiepie55 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 2:07 pm

the energizer…just kidding.definitely friends and family. :)

shoomers said,

March 10, 2006 @ 2:51 pm

you should find a hobby and invest all your time into it. youll learn something new and it will occup[y your time. best way to move on i think :D

keneke said,

March 10, 2006 @ 3:08 pm

hope and friendship. ahhh…love. damn you.

shoujo said,

March 10, 2006 @ 4:31 pm

Aww… sometimes, when we are really emotional, we don’t realize how irrational we are being. I’m glad to hear that your friends have been there for you through this crappy time. Hmm… what keeps me going? Probably the feeling that I really am capable of doing things on my own. Even if I would like someone else to take care of me, I know that I’m smart enough and independent enough to not have to rely on someone else all the time for my happiness. That, of course, and my friends. ;)

bLinD_JEdi said,

March 10, 2006 @ 4:35 pm

may the force be with u…..

DontTouchMySOUL said,

March 10, 2006 @ 4:50 pm

i don’t know.
i think friends.
somehow, my true friends always come out whenever i go through somethign dramatic.
you’ll get through this Shi. =)
feel better. remember ICE CREAM HELPS!

Introspection_86 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 5:16 pm

I hope you feel better. =)Lots of chocolate… and painting helps me. More chocolate than the art, though.

gechalx said,

March 10, 2006 @ 6:09 pm

for me music always helps me out… i just blast the shit out of my speakers when i’m angry/sad/depressed… angels and airwaves- the adventure, is a good song too. check it out and blast it on the speakers

HSR24601 said,

March 10, 2006 @ 6:35 pm

HappinessIn the comic strip, “Pearls Before Swine” by Stephan Pastis, the simpleton pig is asked “What does it mean to be happy? Is it something subjective? Or is there an objective component? Is it simply the absence of pain? Or is it something more?” The seemingly dim-witted pig replies, “I think happiness is finding a couple of extra fries in the bottom of the bag.” What is happiness? I think the best way for a person to describe happiness is for that same person to describe what is pain and unhappiness. These concepts are all subjective, one person’s joy may be another person’s misery. Ask yourself this, “does running cause me great joy, or does is cause me great misery?” It’s all a matter of perspective. Remember this: unhappy people are those who enjoy counting their difficulties and miserable counting their elations.

Scorpi said,

March 10, 2006 @ 7:31 pm

two things:me.the unyielding desire to best what “they” can only hope to achieve……as for your friends, great to see that you cherish them; but more than that, great for them for sticking by you in a time of need. most people take off when trouble starts.. as they can only be a friend of convenience.

Kn1Hc said,

March 10, 2006 @ 8:00 pm

work out, take a walk or run, or contribute to something even greater like helping someone else less fortunate out. i like to see the faces of the all the people i helped out especially little kids, it reminds me of what im doing is good and its all worth it. when they smile, you’ll smile…. =)

activeAmygdala said,

March 10, 2006 @ 8:03 pm

friends, time of reflection, walks and swings

Blueboy101 said,

March 11, 2006 @ 2:39 am

Work keeps me going. Then after that… revenge.

juryduty said,

March 11, 2006 @ 5:28 am

fly to philly and get some cheesesteaks

guitar___riffs said,

March 11, 2006 @ 5:51 am

pilates. and having control over my work. as if the work is the only that I can actually control without someone interferring. something like that…

mybelle21 said,

March 11, 2006 @ 7:10 am

you know who’s also a good friend? mr. patron! bring on the thursday nights!

STRESSEDwriter said,

March 11, 2006 @ 7:50 am

C8H10N4O2

Slutburger_with_Cheese said,

March 11, 2006 @ 8:05 am

That’s a sexy picture. You advertising for a new bf already?

OoOohPeTeR said,

March 11, 2006 @ 8:58 am

vodka keeps me strong

I_Am_Arnold_Schwarzenegger said,

March 11, 2006 @ 8:59 am

that’s good to hear that things worked out for you in the end.

frshsqzedoj said,

March 11, 2006 @ 9:27 am

masturbation

O_2627 said,

March 11, 2006 @ 3:21 pm

knowing that things can only get better if you think they’re at its worse now.

lindenrose said,

March 11, 2006 @ 4:23 pm

It’s so important to have a strong support system. Glad to see that you are better.

LazY_B_A_P_E said,

March 11, 2006 @ 4:32 pm

i’ve been having troubles with my boyfriend.. i don’t know whether i’m staying with him because i’m afraid to be single. i guess if anything.. lots of clubbing. i hope you feel better

AznBoy_D said,

March 11, 2006 @ 6:08 pm

Holla at cha boy meet me at Phuc Loc Tot

BarefootBreckenNoel said,

March 11, 2006 @ 6:19 pm

I’ve been through a horrible breakup as well. Just remember that it will get easier and although I’m sure that right this moment you aren’t worried about finding someone new… eventually someone will come along that will make you just as happy as he did.

phoenix_mmm_2_4 said,

March 11, 2006 @ 6:41 pm

feel better.  =)

AngeloveGirl said,

March 11, 2006 @ 7:43 pm

My friends keep me going. And sometimes I think they help me keep distracted from the problems I face now. My family & God is also a big plus for me.

BlindButDriving said,

March 11, 2006 @ 9:05 pm

Hope keeps me going.
Just hang in there doll

radjbo said,

March 11, 2006 @ 10:52 pm

friends always does wonders. i hope you feel better soon, and i know you’ll get through this. =)

dawn_1o9 said,

March 11, 2006 @ 11:04 pm

don’t listen to cheezy love songs.. (ie: You’re Still the One.. From This Moment On, etc.) they’re really bad for you… (for me also)… Listen to techno songs if u like.. Go shopping… Eat out with friends… Go exercising? (that’s what I do)… My last breakup was many years ago and I’ve been single ever since… It is lonely but I have friends, so it’s been good :)

sweetea714 said,

March 11, 2006 @ 11:45 pm

knowing for a fact,
that theres always rainbow
after the rain.
;)

nofa1r said,

March 12, 2006 @ 3:14 am

knowing that this is only a temprorily bleep in my life and that i’ll get over it soon because i KNOW there is something better in store for me in the future. its ultimately there lost for not wanting you in their lives.

serenette said,

March 12, 2006 @ 7:37 am

I have an army of friends too. Through the toughest of times, they’ve stuck by me and I’m so grateful for that =)

tHexDonStER said,

March 12, 2006 @ 8:06 am

encouragements….but sometime encouragements get you in trouble.

JohnnyJinx said,

March 12, 2006 @ 4:41 pm

you should go swing dancing with another guyRIGHT NOW.

SuperJonas77 said,

March 12, 2006 @ 8:13 pm

don’t worry…we’re gonna have a blast when we all meet up! click me!

dfgu said,

March 13, 2006 @ 10:14 am

everything will get better as time goes on.. I always lived be “out of sight out of mind”.. It’s not easily done, but it works well in the long run… I just know that there’s always tomorrow, which is a new day, a new day to start fresh and make that day whatever you want it to be… hang in there…

munkeeboi83 said,

March 13, 2006 @ 5:05 pm

my motivation: “success is the best revenge”

kyleeuin said,

March 13, 2006 @ 9:54 pm

No not really. But it was an original read. Anyway how are you doing? I hope you are starting to feel better

timothyj said,

March 14, 2006 @ 6:29 am

you have some awesome friends if thats the case.

SparklingSecrets said,

March 14, 2006 @ 11:52 pm

friends! and having a good time.

Noihasf said,

March 15, 2006 @ 7:14 am

that sucks… Lan seemed like a good guy too

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