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July 16, 2002 at 10:37 pm · Filed under Rigamarole

so many times we as humans are concerned with what is fake. we are so intent on finding out what it is about others that is fake and unreal that we completely pass over what is real. well, at least i know i do it.

i fail to remember, fail to note, that even the falsest part of somebody is also at the same time a real part of them. a fake compliment — real effort or real condescension, a fake smile even though you know its fake reveals hidden anguish, anger, irritation.

no matter how fake someone appears to be, in that moment they are really what they appear to be. it’s like being an actor in an improvisional play in which you only know the general idea of the character’s character. in that moment, that person is really you. so essentially, people are always real regardless of how fake they are.

what do you think?
are you fake?

Xavier said,

July 16, 2002 @ 11:25 pm

I agree with you that essentially people are always real regardless of how fake they are because their actions and behavior are the result of who they really are. There is nothing wrong with pretending to be something that you’re not as long as it’s not deceptive. For instance, there is nothing wrong with someone holding their head up high and pretending to be strong in the hopes that one day they will be. You can’t actualize a state of being unless you practice and experience it.

On an off topic note: Kim, it’s true you do look different in every picture. Although you’re always kawaii.

Xavier said,

July 16, 2002 @ 11:50 pm

After reading my previous post, I think that I need to clarify my statement, "There is nothing wrong with pretending to be something that you’re not as long as it’s not deceptive." as it sounds contradictory. What I mean is that you shouldn’t be deceptive about your past, history or present situation, but you can try on different roles, state of being, as long as you’re sincere. Sincerity breeds trust, and trust is the most important part of any relationship.

What I appreciate about your journal, Kim, is that I believe that you are honest with your readers, regardless of how much you’re willing to divulge about your life.

Keep it real Kim, but I know you will.

kim said,

July 17, 2002 @ 10:20 am

wow, that’s an awesome analogy, kris. It really is how most people are, too. :)

Kris said,

July 17, 2002 @ 12:27 pm

All too often things and people are not necessarily ‘fake’ but they appear different than they really are, or there is more than you get to see.

It is like the ocean, once you dive under the surface there is suddenly this entire world that was hidden from above.

kim said,

July 17, 2002 @ 6:46 pm

X – I’m not as honest as I’d like to be, nor am I as good at assimilating my online personality with my offline personality. Weird, though, how both personalities feel like they each have more ‘real’ aspects than the other at different times.

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