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Great Expectations

“Expectations are the root of disappointment”

I read that somewhere recently on a black blog in red letters. It struck me as trite but the idea has stuck to me somehow.

And now I have this indescribable urge to write about it. So call me trite if you will, but let me continue…

Valentines day I believe that every year on valentines day, the sentiment of expectations being the root of disappointment is fully explored, not only by disappointed people in relationships, but also by singles.

People In Relationships

This goes without saying. I mean, this is pretty obvious — people (especially girls) expect a big to-do from their ‘boo’ on Valentine’s day and are subsequently disappointed when this doesn’t happen.

I’ve been a victim to that situation myself.

A long long time ago, the first time I had a boyfriend on Valentines day, I spent the whole day making 2 dozen chocolate hershey kiss roses and baking a huge amount heart, star, and moon shaped sugar cookies coverd in pink red and white sprinkles. I still have the sprinkles.

I arrived at his house exicted and full of expectations of what the night had in store… Only to spend a good portion of the night sitting in his room watching him play the Warcraft3 beta that I had given him only 2 days before.

Since, I’ve learned to understand that life is better lived when you don’t have expectations of grandeur.

What many girls (and I) sometimes fail to realize is that despite all of the media hype, a celebration of your relationship and a celebration of your love can happen any day, it doesn’t have to be a special day, and especially not a day designated by society as a day of ‘love’. What makes that day more special than any other day? Especially if it doesn’t have any significance to you?

And despite what happened on that valentines day, I had many, many beautiful memories with that boy that are not attached to any pieces of media hype.

Still, it’s hard to not be swept up by all the things on television.

Singles

Harder still, I think is life on singles during the time of this holiday.

Though Valentine’s day has jokingly been called “Singles Appreciation Day” aka “S.A.D.”, it’s not hard to see why.

Even the people on television who are fake single act lonely on Valentine’s day. The hype starts as soon as February begins and all the TV stations begin airing “romantic episodes” of shows and commercials become sappy and lovey dovey, and images of diamonds, chocolate, flowers and teddy bears are all over everything that you see.

You see it all the time on TV shows, people scrambling for valentines.. like Friends, Sex and the City, to name a couple.

All of a sudden, it’s not even your own expectations that are causing you disappointment.

It’s society’s expectations.

It’s hard enough dealing with the shit you put on yourself, but put that with the pressure that society puts on you to have a significant other or at least someone to share the night with on the 14th, you begin to get desparate.

You start looking for any bitch that might spend time with you on that night (remember Chandler and Janice on Friends?), doesn’t matter how much he/she shit on your heart or if you cared for him/her at all. Who cares? As long as you have something to show for that night, to fulfill society’s expectation that everybody needs a valentine to be happy.

Now, this isn’t a rail against those people who DO do something romantic on Valentines day. I think it’s cool to plan ahead and do something amazing for each other, etc etc. I think it really shows a person’s dedication if they try to make an amazing night.

I don’t diss the celebration of love. I think any celebration of love is beautiful. I think that couples should celebrate their love more often than one day a year… that people should always be thinking of ways to make their significant others smile.

I even think valentines day is fun to celebrate.

My question is, what is the urge that causes us to want to do it on the same day? Is there some kind of psychological thrill that people get from knowing that there’s millions of other people enjoying their love, while still more are suffering because of it?

Why does our society, our media, our heart (even my heart…) build up so much expectation and anticipation for a day that, really, doesn’t even have very much significance?

. A good answer for me and I will give you a cookie

Love,
Kim
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Sup007 said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:43 am

well valentine’s day to me is a special day…..and it might be a product of the media but i don’t care……i fall into the hype….i like having special days all the time…..but it’s something about this one day that i just want to do something big…..oh well……hahah i say all this….but really i’ve never had a valentine……so hahaha i could be just blowing smoke out my ass

riceboyx4u said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:46 am

i concur, valentines day is a corporate-created holiday. this day is solely in the interest to increase business. besides, we should be treating our loved ones as if it was valentines day every day anyway. =D

NoOdL3_bOy said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:50 am

Who knows….that’s just how it is i guess…I never cared too much for it though.  Especially lately…but that’s a different story.
*shrug*

chrisjericho said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:59 am

This day does hold significance.
Priest Valentine was put to death when he defied Emperor Claudius II, who decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families and outlawed marriage for young men.  Valentine continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret.
Or Valentine was killed for helping Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured.
Or Valentine actually sent the first ‘valentine’ greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl — who may have been his jailor’s daughter — who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed ‘From your Valentine,’ an expression that is still in use today.
In conclusion, Valentine’s Day is about death.

lissytypes said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:19 pm

everyday can be valentine’s day =)
hey girl, im going to V20 tonight, its in LB. If ur interested. let me kmow or if u roll with ur friends, i guess i’ll see u there.

Tinatamad2001 said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:24 pm

I guess tradition has madedays like Valentine’s day worth celebrating more than other days.. But I agree, Valentines Day everyday would be great..
Can I have my cookie now?..

NoOdL3_bOy said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:28 pm

Hehe.  I’m legal now, btw.  *grin* o_o Anyways…is it strange that someone with the name “Valentino” doesn’t like valentines day, btw?  just curious.

CaKaLusa said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:31 pm

SCREW LOVE. SCREW LIFE. SCREW EVERYTHING!if anybody wants me, I’ll be taking a crap.hug me?kidding.

delaphus said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:33 pm

society and individuals in general like to put some sort of importance in their lives and in everything they do. it’s an extentalist view,  but it’s seen in almost everything we do- why do we have to follow certain standards of society such as going to college, getting a good job, and why we put our selves in situations that we do not like, like getting a crappy high paying job… it’s all to place importance on ourselves and on our lives.. even if it is meaningless. 

Sup007 said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:47 pm

answer for men: i think partly for many men it is a cop out……..they put a lot of importance in this single day to feel like they’ve done something for the one they love…..other than this single day and maybe a birthday or anniversary very few men really do anything “special” for that girl.  v-day is a filler day for a lot of guysanswer for women:  i’m not a woman, so i’m not going to even touch this side of the topic =)

H0USe said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:48 pm

i dont believe in holidays =-O  i believe in sunday, monday, tuesday, wednesday, thursday, friday, and saturday… sad huh??? not to me O_O

stupidcrazy said,

February 5, 2005 @ 12:54 pm

Well here is a story that may explain the social insignicant of Valentine’s Day. This my story from last year…
 
Went out to a bar last year with a shit load of singled-wrapped roses i.e. (for desperate single girls on Valentine’s Day)  I brought 108 roses and passed them out like candies at this ultra posh club called Suede. Got tons of digits and mad hook-ups from fly honeyz at the club and even started to give one girl Mr. Stupidcrazy goodz in a private bathroom.(Mr. Stupidcrazy is a VIP)  And ended the night with a threesome in my favor at some girl apartment on the eastside.  Can u say Pimping?  Now why did Mr. Stupidcrazy take advantage of these poor helpless girls that were teemly desperate girls on that one day.  Why it’s easy u see, society has implied a socially retarded notion that on this day, It is all about the illusion of grandeur and fulfilment of one’s hearts desires i.e. bullshit.  That why I go barhoping on Valentine’s Day to pick those desperate socially inept girls with no valentine’s date to speak and give them what they crave a follie a grandeur for Valentine’s Day

Jesster_Mets said,

February 5, 2005 @ 1:05 pm

Because the media and corporate systems are heavily attached.
And we fall for it.

MrDurden said,

February 5, 2005 @ 1:07 pm

werd

smilefomindiie said,

February 5, 2005 @ 1:07 pm

heheh thxx ;D like your drawing hahah its hillarious
— Mindy Ly

ALN_with_an_E said,

February 5, 2005 @ 1:28 pm

the answer is cuz there just isn’t enough time in a day.
everyone is always busy, we always say we’re going to do things but never get around to it because of lack of time.  I’d love to do these romantic things for my girl, but when i get home from school\work\gym i don’t got time because tomorrow the cycle begins again.  We need a day that we can set, so we can finally get around to doing some gesture to show our love.  How many gifts do you really get from your parents during the year when it’s not your bday or xmas.  probably not alot.  It’s not that they don’t always wanna give you gifts, it’s just life is hectic and when you have a set day you can focus.  Everyone deserves a day of love, just like everyone should have a day of presents.
Also if you did romantic things all the time for your girl, eventually it just wouldn’t seem special.  Example you always buy your girl dinner when you go out… sooner or later she stops thinkin it’s sweet and just gets use to it.
blah my hand hurts

Onigiriman said,

February 5, 2005 @ 1:42 pm

Man, that’s a good question. Why do they have a day that creates a false type of love. Not that love is false, but what makes 2/14 a special day to love? As I have no answer, I guess i’ll have to do without a cookie…

iMiTaTioN_iz_SuiCiDe said,

February 5, 2005 @ 2:22 pm

mayne, i’ll tell u why….
commercialization of holidays such as this valentine’s day nonsense, christmas, mother’s day, halloween, and alllll those other crazy bolded days on the calendar is good for the stores! it’s all so that periodically, stores are able to see mass consumptions of their silly silly products, it keeps our economy happy or some junk, guaranteed business…. so yes, the media effects society which in turn effects your heart and everybody winds up twisted….
the two most beautiful points u made: 1) “And despite what happened on that valentines day, I had many, many beautiful memories with that boy that are not attached to any pieces of media hype.” those memories will ALways mean the most… forget a valentine’s day… and 2) “…it’s not even your own expectations that are causing you disappointment. It’s society’s expectations.” ugh… silly society… always confusing the individual…
lata

projectblogsphere said,

February 5, 2005 @ 2:24 pm

I think society takes comfort in the order, amongst chaos, that these set days provide.  Why only appreciate your mother on Mother’s Day?  Why do so many families only gather on Thanksgiving?  Why do so many people only go to church on Christmas?  While it certainly does not apply to many, a good number of people are lost in their day-to-day life.  These set days serve as a reminder, a to-do list for them to do things that otherwise would be forgotten.  I am one of those people who think that appreciating certain things or people only on a pre-determine dates is silly.  My ex and I used to celebrate a monthly “anniversary” just to be different – but I send flowers or candies or what not to her work all the time.  Unfortunately, too many people are used to the attention brought forth by these set dates.  And if they do not receive the kind of attention that they believe is appropriate on days such as Valentine’s Day, there’s somehow a sense of under appreciation.  Forget about the fact that your man or woman loves you the other 364 days.  Forget about all the big and little things they do on a daily basis.  If you don’t come through on Valentine’s Day, it’s over…and that’s just silly.  But, as you said, it’s all about expectation.  Valentine’s Day is no more special than Groundhogs Day or Secretary’s Day or Wednesday…except society has deemed it a day for you to show your love to your “boo”.

x_not_your_star said,

February 5, 2005 @ 3:16 pm

Wow. you make sence.

HotterBoy said,

February 5, 2005 @ 3:23 pm

It’s all about stimulating excitement for business. Jewelers, flower shops, card stores, candy makers…all make a lot during that time. Everything is about money.

LOokingin_All_thewrngplaces said,

February 5, 2005 @ 3:29 pm

iAM i H0PE….YEA WELL IM GLA Y0U ARE FEELiNG BETTER!!!

KeAiNuRen said,

February 5, 2005 @ 3:42 pm

Dang! What’s with all the hype? I was into that last year, but I tend to like to shy away from those dates. It feels like a lot of work because if you don’t do the right thing, then your significant other might be hurt. Yes, I don’t think it’s awlays the female with the expectation. A good way to not be let down of expectations is for the person to just tell the significant other what they want. Spell it out. I do that and I do not have any problems with my bf. :o) Being open on what you want let’s the couple save some stress of trying to guess what is on the other person’s mind. Sure it might take the fun out of it, but giving general ideas of what you like can still allow a person to have options of surprise.Hope everyone has a great valentine’s day. Yes there is a lot of hype on Valentine’s day, but I like to think of it as a day of sharing your love by showing appreciation towards friends and just not your special someone. Friends are special too. *hugs*

onestyle said,

February 5, 2005 @ 4:00 pm

we wait for excuses to appreciate the things we love

nofa1r said,

February 5, 2005 @ 4:27 pm

It’s the competitive nature. We want to know that our bf/gf has done something that is far better than what our friend’s bf/gf did. Because it shows how committed their love to us is.
I’ve always hated V-day even when I had a gf. but now that I’m single, it makes the month so much hardier to bare that I’m running away from the country so I weren’t have to deal with all that is enveloped with v-day.

TenThousandPoetWarriors said,

February 5, 2005 @ 4:29 pm

why do we have to think valentine’s day must be done out of duty? i’m sure there are couples who feel that valentine’s day provides a good excuse to do all the fun and mushy stuff. there are probably more of those couples than we care to admit. we tend to assume most couples are begrudgingly doing the ol’ standard rigamarol. but i believe there are couples who let their imagination make the occasion special every year.and i applaud such ppl.

JCFans said,

February 5, 2005 @ 4:39 pm

i agree with you. i personally hate valentine’s day, it’s so over-rated! [this saying is caused because of the fact that i’m single hahaha lol].
find me someone for V-day! lol.
and how’s your pneumonia? are you positive that you’ve contracted the disease? and what kind of pneumonia? i’m sorry to hear that, though *huggzzz*

JCFans said,

February 5, 2005 @ 4:57 pm

RYC: half single? i wasn’t aware such a term exists =P.

honeynutmeg said,

February 5, 2005 @ 5:24 pm

i stopped caring about valentines day more than five years ago….sure, i still get bitter as hell on that dreaded day and usually wear all black to mourn my single life…thats all part of the package….but my fellow bitter friend judith and i started “singles day” on april 13th (random date) and celebrate every year….we usually be sure to look extra cute that day and do something for ourselves…its nice…this year will be our fifth…

markykos said,

February 5, 2005 @ 5:48 pm

Ive got some Ice cream..it might make some of you singles feel better, not sure if it beats cookies though
oh and valentines day blows, I will never get myself to buy chocolates in the shape of hearts

markykos said,

February 5, 2005 @ 5:50 pm

oh, yeah im just putzin around random xangas, actually i stumbled apon your site…very cool

inkhelm said,

February 5, 2005 @ 6:04 pm

Regardless whether I’m single or in a relationship, I try to show the people that I love how much they mean to me year-round. Whether it be my family, friends, or significant other, I make sure they know how much I appreciate having them in my life. To me, V-day is just another day that’s really nothing special. Shouldn’t the ‘day’ of showing that you love someone be shown every day of the year. Just because other people do it, doesn’t mean everyone needs to follow suit. It just seems that it’s the accepted standard in our society to do such things on a certain given day. It’s kind of an expected thing that isn’t really given a second thought by anyone. But if you love someone, I’d rather tell them out of the blue or when they least expect it. That makes it more worthwhile to me.

lumpiablog said,

February 5, 2005 @ 6:04 pm

valentines day is nothing more than chocolate day for me. my one true love. my loyal little truffles… garglegagsad

RichyDuce said,

February 5, 2005 @ 7:39 pm

“would you be my valentine?”
O:-)  

estoychino said,

February 5, 2005 @ 7:39 pm

couldnt’ve put it any better

kayisabubblebootay said,

February 5, 2005 @ 7:43 pm

valentine’s day for me this year = S.A.D…the first in three years…*sigh* It is hard to love more than one person…the worst is that they don’t realize how you can love it…but you do.  There’s no explaination…

RichyDuce said,

February 5, 2005 @ 7:51 pm

BTW I’m drunk right now, so don’t believe everything i say.

swtlovingurl said,

February 5, 2005 @ 8:27 pm

hope you’re feeling better!! im sick too =(
and as for your valentine’s day thing..i think that valentine’s day is kinda over hyped – regardless if it was i was single or not…i’ve always thought that your significant other should show you that they love you throughout the year, not just on one day outta the entire year…i see so many guys going to the mall or what have you spending a crap load of money on the girl to show their love or wut not…but i think that you should make that person you are with feel special all year around, not just that one day in the year….and it doesn’t even have to involve a lot of money cuz there are so many ways to show someone you think they are special..so that’s my take! hehe =P   … n o yah..hope u have a nice superbowl sunday too!!…i wish u were here too!! *hug*

DBZmike said,

February 5, 2005 @ 9:15 pm

Hi Kim. Yeah. Lets go party! :-D Are you better now?

piggydc said,

February 5, 2005 @ 9:16 pm

S.A.D.??? gosh thats a new one…. thanks for posting that. It’s nice to know that you’re not alone out there with all this V-Day angst. :-) very thought provoking, Kim…

frshsqzedoj said,

February 5, 2005 @ 9:32 pm

i pee in my pants

yerbabygirl said,

February 5, 2005 @ 9:34 pm

you’ve stumped me, definitely.

picassosinatra said,

February 5, 2005 @ 9:43 pm

The basis of that day is love.  Theoretically speaking, we should always treat the ones we love with the utmost care every day of the year.  As creatures of habit, the designation of Valentine’s day is just a sign post for sheep that that is THE day to prove/demonstrate your love for your significant other.  Sure Valentine’s day has really become a corporate whoring of a America, but thank God for that.  For the socially awkward or the people that need REASONS to tell someone they love them, this holiday serves that purpose…because some people need guidance.  Take for example the lengthiness of my response.  I did it under my own volition.  I’m not even trying to solicit a cookie.  =)

sKyHiGhPnAi said,

February 5, 2005 @ 9:54 pm

What would really suck.. is your date/boyfriend flaking out on you on valentines day. I hate flakers. Rarrgh.

DJ_Ajuhshi said,

February 5, 2005 @ 9:56 pm

Yeah, people should get fired up on running…..but it’s so damn boring, isn’t it?  And about the pneumonia; once you have it, you’re more likely to have it again than others.  I guess we’re bothed focked.  But don’t worry, it’s not as bad as the first one. 
Valentine’s Day is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make money.  Love shouldn’t be just celebrated once a year, but everyday.  But like you said, let us hope people don’t hook up for the sake of Valentine’s Day out of desperation.  Godiva must be making a killing during this time of year.

stupidcrazy said,

February 5, 2005 @ 10:11 pm

ME veryy durnk agauin hahahha.
fdranken-xangaing hahaa

steadystate said,

February 5, 2005 @ 10:24 pm

as you astutely observed, valentine’s day is basically a chore that no one really wants to go through but force down their throats – like bad muffins, or your cell-mate’s cock. valentine’s day, the trite celebration of babies and love, is as useless as a king in these hard new communist times.i say we should no longer just take this stupid corporate-sponsored holiday up the ass anymore, and rebel. with fiery passion. we need to take our future into our own hands.i also think we need more costume-themed holidays. not lame, stupid, “oh, i’m going to be a bear today!” costumes, but like, scary shit, with pumpkin-headed monsters and hockey-masked killers and children asking for candy. we need more holidays that give west hollywood more excuses to exuberantly flaunt their homosexuality, more holidays that give children reasons to be evil, more holidays that give santa claus and fat turkeys a run for their money, on the sheer scale of triumphant chaos. in this respect, we again need to take our future into our own hands.i think that we, as a society, should move to change valentine’s day into one that involves costumes. not lame cherub-themed costumes, but with something more fun, like halloween, or clown day, or mardi gras. in fact, i don’t think there’s a real “clown day” at all, so we should just create a new holiday, called “clown day.” i am all for the random wanton celebration of clowns.just imagine what that would do for february now: instead of insipid little cherubs shooting harmless arrows at unsuspecting saps who otherwise just wanted to be left alone, we’d have armies of clowns marching up and down the streets, with cream pies and bananas and squirting flowers. seas of mimes flood new york, san francisco, and peoria. it would sell like bags of roasted chestnuts on london street corners too; i, for one, can imagine the local k-mart running out of honky-noses in about two hours flat. so no one currently manufacturing pink heart-shaped drivel would complain.that is my idea of the day. i should post this in my own blog, huh?oh yeah, thanks for posting your comments! i really appreciate those; shows that someone actually reads my entries!

acchan_the_turtle said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:29 pm

F*** valentines day….I think my best memory of Valentines day is getting candy from a FRIEND.the other valentines day i remember being taken forgranted or being let down…i tried so hard and still wasnt good enough… fuck that shiti know when the right person comes along it wont feel like a responsibility do ahve to do something for them… it’ll just be a want

eklipse126 said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:30 pm

thanks kim, you’ve given me motivation not to do anything “special” for ivy on valentine’s day! kekeke.
answer: socialization ever since we were born. even as a little kid, your teachers made you give valentine’s day cards to your classmates, you saw “love” in commercials, you saw it in our friends, it’s everywhere. it’s a Hallmark holiday. and as you grow up, you begin to expect it to be filled with romance. it could possibly go along with Laura’s post on personal validation through love.

aHARDCORESTUDyer said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:30 pm

cuz it sells. ask hallmark. its marketed to us and has been marketed to us as a requirement of society. dont u remember in elementary school when you had valentines day parties and everyone had to write cards for each other? thats pretty much training to be a victim later on in life. so…how about that cookie =)

forthright_honesty said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:44 pm

good shit… period…

Leah_Sugar said,

February 5, 2005 @ 11:46 pm

hey, liked ur site.. so added u.. hope u don mind.. well, i tend not to expect much from Vday.. so to avoid the disappointment, sometimes, disappointment brings more hurt than the joy of geting a surprise.. if u know wat i mean..

anne0122 said,

February 6, 2005 @ 1:04 am

Maybe media just wants everyone to have a day of love in their lives… and somehow it’s made into a couples type thing.  But really it’s a peaceful type of day when everyone should love one another.  Sometimes people are taken for granted every other day of the year… I guess this day helps them be appreciated or helps them realize that they are not being appreciated and should fix things up.  In a way, it’s kind of like a Christmas, but about love with religion involved?? I dunno, I just want a cookie. :-D

minho said,

February 6, 2005 @ 4:56 am

answer:maybe u just want to feel special….like a jew on christmas…or like a mexican on labor day. hahahahahai dunno…what u need for valentines day is a korean guy to toss you around the room, beat u senseless, and sell ur clothes to support his gambling.

plagiarized_thoughts said,

February 6, 2005 @ 7:32 am

valentines day is a load of crap. it’s like your birthday or even thanksgiving. why should you celebrate life once a year?!  greating cards don’t think of that, well ya they have the “thinking of you” cards but you usually don’t even give those unless you’re expected to. but society is built on commercialism and we are an industry that enriches only if the media can dupe us into believeing the crap they sprew out to us. thus we buy into the “wear red on valentine’s day, say ‘i love you’ get flowers and chocolate and if you’re lucky get laid” and we begin to accept it as our only way.
by not expecting much you don’t have to worry about being dissapointed. it’s the greatest solution.
nice drawing!

aznbro85 said,

February 6, 2005 @ 8:20 am

waittasec… warcraft 3 hasn’t been out for that long, no?you made it sound like your first valentines day with a b/f was like ages ago.. xD
to me, all valentines day is is another hallmark holiday.  if you really love somebody, you’d spend time with them anyday, not just one day a year.
it’s almost like thanksgiving [except it has more of a significance].  Everyday people are probably thankful for something that has [or hasn’t happened], but it seems that some people only take one day out of the year to be thankful for all they have…
anyways.. so yeah.. valentines day is a scam! and cupid is evil! :-P

sexysoccerdude11 said,

February 6, 2005 @ 10:03 am

I am not a big fan of valentines day, in fact I guess I can say I dislike it a lot. Usually I end up spending a lot of money on candy that I don’t get to eat and cards that get thrown away. So this year I am going anti-valentines day commando.

Lily523 said,

February 7, 2005 @ 7:18 am

well it is probably more a psychological thing.. like we need reasons for everything that we do.. perhaps the show of love or affection can be represent to a day that we assign as “Valentine’s Day”.  It motivates us cuz everyone is in that mood also.. But else I agree any other day can be a representation of love and might be more significant cuz it is unique to the couple

crewj said,

February 8, 2005 @ 2:38 am

i want a cookie!

B00MERANG said,

February 8, 2005 @ 10:58 am

Hi there..
The things that you point out are all ligitement..  What stood out on your points, is the “expectations” issue. It’s true that society has set too much expectations on certain issue’s of life-the media in particular. You’re right, if two people whom share their life together shouldn’t require a particular day to express their love and devotion for one another. That’s absolutely correct. However, sometimes some of us are too busy or too caught up in our work that we tend to forget to enjoy the company of our loved ones: Therefore, having a particular day to remind us of that special person that we have in our life and for us to show how much they really mean to us.. Sound right to you? And now, in-response to your question “what is the urge that causes us to want to do it on the same day?” This is similar to the phrase “jumping on the bandwagon.” If we see someone celebrate it, we too will duplicate their actions. In particular, we all need a reason to do something,  such as there needs to be a trigger for a response to happen.. Something like that. Well, anyhow, I hope your valentines day will be as how you expect it to be.. But first off, happy lunar new years…

SailorJerry said,

February 10, 2005 @ 2:56 pm

Valentine’s is a day I don’t much like after all I am perpetually single and whatnot but anyway I really think that everyday you have to spend with those you love or care about should be a celebration and that Valentine’s as a national celebrstion of this emotion is a nice effort but it’s also sort of an oxymoron after all to dedicate a day for the celebration of love in a country which for the most part relates love with physical or sexual interatcion. Kinda sounds negative to say but I really feel people in our society have forgotten the definition of love is to put the concerns, wants, feelings, and needs of your soulmate above those of your own and in doing so achieve happiness in their happiness…. bad verbage I’ll try to repost my old definition to my site friday or saturday.

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