I’m nicer to people I don’t like
and meaner to the people I do like…
Have you ever noticed that it’s a lot easier to say really mean/nasty things [in jest] to the people you love? And yet, it’s really hard to be that same funny bitch to people you don’t like?
I attribute this phenomenon [at least my case] to two main reasons:
- If I don’t really care about them, I probably don’t know them, this can be dangerous I can’t tell if they’ll take me seriously. Some people are really sensitive.
- If I say something mean, I might really mean it… in a mean way. [I said mean 3.. no, 4 times!]
Which, you know, kind of sucks for the people I DO love, because I can be a complete ass sometimes.
So I guess in this world of contradictions….
- If I’m nice to you, I probably don’t know you well enough.
- If I’m nice to you, I might not like you very much.
- If I’m ridiculously nice to you, I might not like you that much and am overcompensating.
- If I’m a bitch to you, you might be one of my best friends.
- If I’m a bitch to you, I might not like you that much.
To be honest, I consider myself a person that likes pretty much everyone, but that list makes it seem as if I dislike people more than I like them. Not true. #1 is probably the way I approach most people.
So, here’s a question:
Is it fake to be nice to people you’re not sure you really like because you don’t want to cause waves?
Not being nice to try to get ahead or gain anything — or even so that you can make fun of them behind their backs, but just playing nice because you don’t want to deal with the drama that would ensue if you decided to speak your mind?
Or is it just as bad as the Plastics in Mean Girls?
